My Personal Blog has been pretty much dead lately. That’s because I’ve been doing daily private journal entries instead. I guess this means that my personal development endeavors are starting to yield some results. – Dignity restored? Maybe. Or perhaps, in reality, I’m just a more private person than I led myself to believe. I always pictured myself as a very public person, a self-proclaimed Public Figure, in fact, due to my excessive over-sharing of every single detail of my life on the premise that I love sharing my life with random strangers, just because “why not?” But now, the more I work through my personal issues, the more private I become. There is a lot going on in my life that I am not sharing with anyone at all, and for the most part, I don’t ever feel the need to share every detail here on my Personal Blog like I once used to.
Instead of over-sharing every detail of my life, I’ve been keeping a private daily journal. Not only has this restored a sense of dignity, but it also eliminated the stress and anxiety associated with turning my personal issues into general public knowledge. I am finally at a point where I’m only interested in posting articles related to experiences that are actually beneficial to others. For example, my travels to local tourist destinations or news related to my professional services. I don’t know why I waited this long to admit, even publicly, that it’s perfectly ok, and even better for my own sanity, to keep certain things private. I used to stress over it when I forgot to share something, and in the process I created a blog and video log that not only contained way too much information, but was also extremely boring and full of general day-to-day personal information that was neither interesting nor worth sharing. The end result of that was a lowered self-esteem, loss of dignity, and immense stress over strangers knowing too much information. It had to end, and it did. And since then, my blog has been dead. I went from over-sharing to no-sharing. Now, here I am, attempting to strike a balance and explaining it to all you lovely readers because, well, I’m not sure why, I just thought that it needed some explaining. Maybe there’s someone else out there going through a similar experience who can learn from this.
Lesson Learnt: Publicly over-sharing every detail of life is not only stressful, but also boring. People don’t care to read about when someone sleeps, eats, pees, walks the dog, , etc. Wait, who am I kidding, there are millions of people following reality TV shows of “celebrities” going about their daily routines. The difference here is that, 1) I’m not a celebrity, 2) Over-sharing every detail of my life won’t make me a celebrity unless I also share something extreme, like a sex-tape, or some other sort of scandal, and 3) I wasn’t over-sharing everything because I wanted to become famous. I’m not a wanna-be celebrity. So, why did I do it? I don’t know… Low self-esteem? A need to feel relevant? Seeking validation? I wasn’t going to find or fix any of those things by over-sharing my life. I had to stop, back down, and look within myself.
Writing a private journal is probably one of the most liberating and therapeutic things that I do. It has started playing a mayor role in my life and my daily routine. I’d rate it just as vital as frequent meditation, if not more. Through reading quality self-help materials and writing a private daily journal I have managed to work through many issues that would have not been addressed had I continued to over-share every personal detail of my life to the general public. In fact, if I didn’t switch my focus from public over-sharing to writing a private journal; many of the issues which I have now resolved would’ve probably been amplified. I’m really glad that I’ve made the switch and I absolutely LOVE keeping a private journal.
Here is a little piece of advice to anyone out there who might be feeling depressed, lonely, or have low self-esteem: Over-sharing your life on the internet, seeking validation and trying to make yourself feel important is not going to make you any less depressed or lonely, and getting attention through over-shared content is not going to raise your self-esteem. The only way to get through those issues and to raise your self-esteem is to start focussing on how you really feel on the inside, recording your findings privately and then working on yourself, your thoughts, and your feelings to improve how you feel about yourself. Learn to love yourself. The more you learn to love yourself, the less you’ll feel a need to over-share every detail of your life. The more you learn to love yourself, the less depressed and lonely you will feel. The more you learn to love yourself, the less you will seek validation from others. I am finally starting to love myself, and it feels great. If you find yourself living the way I did, and over-sharing details the way I have a couple of months (and years) ago, do take my advice; step back, look within, and join me on a journey of personal development. Start a private journal instead of blasting strangers with too much information. Write your own story for yourself, follow your own story and learn to love your own story, learn to love yourself!
So, is this the end of my Personal Blog? No! Far from it. I’ll still be blogging some of my travel experiences, happy moments worth sharing, and thoughts on personal development, entrepreneurship, entertainment, and, well, pretty much anything that I find interesting and worth sharing. You just won’t be reading about any negative personal issues, mundane routines, or every single detail of my personal life anymore. You’re welcome.